Identify Your Life Events

Get personal with God.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all.
The Lord redeems the life of his servants; none of those who take refuge in him will be condemned. ~Psalm 34:18-19, 22

 

Sometimes we wait for years to really feel like we’re living the abundant life…then it never happens. If it is attainable, how do we get there? God wants to meet you in your pain, your negative beliefs about Him, yourself, and others. ~Belle Flowers

Life Event | Belief

Select a life event to sit with God in. Remember to choose an event that is not a ‘big T’ trauma.

Include the following:

  • •Your age.
  • •Room/Place of event
  • Geographic location where you were living
  • •People who were there
  • •+ any other significant information

Emotions

Next, record your emotions related to the event. This can be tough if you’ve shut down your emotions most of your life. There is a list of emotions below to help you.

Interpretation(s)

Then record your interpretation(s) of your world at the time, yourself, others, and/or God.

Connect the Dots

Process. Take a look at what you see at the present time. See if you can identify habitual patterns that have impacted a false or negative view of yourself. In addition to behaviors, pay attention to habits of thought and patterns of feelings. Are there enduring patterns reaching into how you live now?

God’s Message | Love | Interpretation.

As you begin to learn to sit with God in silence and solitude, how can he help you interpret the event and emotions from His perspective of truth, grace, and love?

Holy Desires

When you begin and continue to stay in union with God, in this intimate relationship, you will begin not only to desire holiness, but it will become the abundant life you long for.

Some Examples

A. Life Event | B. Emotions | C. Interpretation(s) | •D. Connect the Dots. | •E. God’s Interpretation

A. Bullied in junior high.

B. Sad. Angry. Numb.

C. I’m worthless.

D. I feel worthless now, even though I’m an adult. My 13-year-old self needs to know that he is a person of value.

E. As I sit in silence and solitude with God, I picture my 13-year-old self and listen for God’s interpretation and how he saw me at 13 years old. As I see him/her I realize that I have learned to hate myself because of what others said to me. As I see the Lord with my 13-year-old self, I see what he thought/thinks of him/her to heal that emotional stuck place I’ve been in since I was 13.

A. Parents divorced age 7.

B. Confused. Scared.

C. I’m invisible. I did something wrong. It was my fault.

D. I was little. I couldn’t really understand that is wasn’t my fault.

E. As I sit in silence and solitude with God, I picture my 7-year-old self and listen for God’s interpretation and how he saw me at that age. As I see him/her I realize that God sees me and I am not invisible to him and that there isn’t anything I did to cause them to divorce. As I see the Lord with my 7-year-old self, I see what he thought/thinks of him/her to heal that emotional stuck place I’ve been in since I was 7.

A. Always yelling at my house.

B. Afraid. Anxious

C. I have to be perfect.

D. I will never be good enough.

E. As I sit in silence and solitude with God, I picture my childhood and listen for God’s interpretation and how he saw then. As I see him/her I realize that it is impossible to do everything right and some of the things I thought were wrong were actually just fine. As I see the Lord with my childhood self, I see what he thought/thinks of him/her to heal that emotional stuck place I’ve been in since then.

Another Option

Sometimes it is difficult to think of an event as traumatic or impacting. Instead of beginning with an event, begin with a negative belief you have about yourself and then float back to the first time in your life you remember feeling that way.

Option 1
  • •Life Event.
  • Emotions.
  • Interpretation(s)
  • Connect the Dots.
  • God’s Interpretation
Option 2
  • Negative Belief.
  • Float Back to 1st time/Event.
  • Emotions.
  • Interpretation(s)
  • Connect the Dots.
  • God’s Interpretation

Emotions List

ANGER

Aggravated
Aggressive
Agitated
Annoyed
Betrayed
Bitter
Bothered
Combative
Cross
Distrustful
Disapproving
Disgusted
Displeased
Dissatisfied
Disturbed
Enraged
Exasperated
Frustrated
Fuming
Furious
Hateful
Hostile
Hurt
Ignored
Impatient
Incensed
Indignant
Infuriated
Irate
Irritated
Jealous
Livid
Mad
Obstinate
Offended
Outraged
Rejected
Resentful
Vicious

HAPPINESS

Amused
Blissful
Calm
Charmed
Cheerful
Comfortable
Confident
Content
Delighted
Eager
Ecstatic
Elated
Euphoric
Excited
Exhilarated
Exuberant
Fulfilled
Glad
Grateful
Honored
Hopeful
Inspired
Jovial
Joyful
Jubilant
Overjoyed
Pleasant
Pleased
Proud
Relaxed
Relieved
Satisfied
Serene
Thankful
Thrilled
Tranquil
Triumphant

SADNESS

Abandoned
Anguished
Cheerless
Defeated
Dejected
Depressed
Despairing
Despondent
Disheartened
Distressed
Disturbed
Dreary
Dull
Forlorn
Gloomy
Glum
Grieving
Heartbroken
Helpless
Hopeless
Inadequate
Lonely
Low
Melancholy
Miserable
Mournful
Negative
Pained
Pessimistic
Powerless
Regretful
Remorseful
Sad
Somber
Sorrowful
Troubled
Unhappy
Woeful
Worthless

FEAR

Afraid
Alarmed
Anxious
Apprehensive
Bothered
Concerned
Disconcerted
Distraught
Distressed
Disturbed
Edgy
Fearful
Frantic
Frazzled
Fretful
Frightened
Jittery
Jumpy
Nervous
Overwhelmed
Overwrought
Panicked
Perturbed
Petrified
Restless
Scared
Startled
Stressed
Tense
Terrified
Threatened
Troubled
Uncertain
Uncomfortable
Uneasy
Unsettled
Unsure
Uptight
Worried

LOVE

Accepted
Adoring
Affectionate
Alive
Amorous
Appreciative
Ardent
Aroused
Attracted
Besotted
Caring
Cherishing
Committed
Complete
Connected
Desirous
Devoted
Fond
Infatuated
Intimate
Kind
Liking
Longing
Lovable
Love-struck
Loving
Lust
Passionate
Romantic
Sensual
Smitten
Tender
Worshipful
Yearning

SHAME or GUILT

Apologetic
Ashamed
Awkward
Blamed
Contrite
Degraded
Disgraced
Dishonored
Embarrassed
Foolish
Forlorn
Guilty
Humiliated
Inferior
Mortified
Penitent
Pitiful
Regretful
Rejected
Remorseful
Repentant
Rueful
Self-conscious
Sorry
Uncomfortable
Vulnerable
Wretched