The Lie

The Knowledge of Good and Evil is disunion with God. ~Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Ethics

For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths.
~Genesis 3:5-7

Not The Garden

Maybe some of this sounds familiar…

  • Did God actually say?
  • Wow, look at that! Doesn’t look fun?
  • It feels good, makes you feel connected and loved.
  • This is who you are. You were born this way.
  • This will make you smarter, wiser, more successful.
  • The enemy deceived me, and I .”

What effect does The Fall have on our identity, the Image of God in us? Identity and ‘Who I am in Christ’ can be seen as separate. In one of the scenes in the movie National Treasure, Nicolas Cage’s character comes back to the room in Philadelphia where the declaration of Independence was signed. The two others waiting are anxious to hear if he has found the map. He replies, ‘no, but I found a way to read the map.’ Jesus came and died so we would have a way to ‘read the map back to God.’ He made it possible to reunite with God as intended in the garden.

To understand identity is to understand that the Who am I question and Who I am in Christ can be looked at as two very different questions and statements. Dan Allendar, a Christian counselor who has written several books and co-founded the counseling program at Grace College in Winona Lake, IN, once said that “the enemy can not go after the Creator, so he goes after the Created.” We are a replica of the image of God.

I am NOT referring to or alluding to any idea that we ARE God or a god. This was the lie of the enemy in the Garden of Eden. Original sin actually made us more like Lucifer. It began the process of us wanting to control our own lives, others and maybe even God — separate from, and out of union with God.

Birth—The First Trauma

“Beginning with the first day of life outside the womb, every child is asking two core questions: ‘Am I loved?’ and ‘Can I get my own way?’ These two questions mark us throughout life, and the answers we receive set the course for how we live.” ~Dan B. Allender

The Beginning

There are no perfect parents because there are no perfect people. Even as Christ followers, it is difficult to raise children as a heart intends. People fail to love the way God intended [that’s why we need His help]. We can also have a difficult time receiving love from God, others, and ourselves when life happens to us and around us.

Yet, even when children are instructed in the way they should go, a child’s temperament or perceptions about what was said, done, or required may be taken in as harmful to the heart, crushing a spirit. Added to the difficulty in raising children, we have our own woundedness to heal from.

There is no blame. This is a fallen world. It is our belief that we are impacted in many ways, some of which include: spiritually, physically, relationally, socially, and emotionally.